Dealing with mental health and a child with extra needs.

Hello all. So sorry I haven’t blogged in a few months. I’ve been really busy trying to get myself back on track. I’m back.

So a little background information my daughter has chromosome abnormalities. She has chromosome 8 duplication and chromosome 2 deletion. Both quite similar but different.

She was born with this and has always been in and out of hospital. Only 3 months ago was she diagnosed with such horrible conditions. She is a happy baby but needs a lot of support and attention. She is 9 months old now and she genuinely has a heart of gold. Such a loving character.

She doesn’t do what most babies do for her age and in fact she may never be able to do so either but I believe in my girl and it might take some time but I KNOW she will do it.

On top of this I have BPD which I’ve explained previously and at times I do struggle significantly. I get up I smile I show my girl what life is about and then I put her to bed and cry. Having my mental health is hard enough. Being a single mum is hard enough but doing it together and on top having a baby with extra needs it’s tough. BUT I DO IT! I will continue to do it because I have a beautiful girl who needs me.

Today I reached out to hundreds of people on Facebook groups. Friends. Family. It’s what I’ve needed to do a long time ago. I have therapy. I have so much support. My mum is my biggest supporter. Speaking from my heart has been a challenging thing to do lately as I’ve felt really on my own and an ‘a-burden’ I suppose. I’m not on my own. You’re not on your own either. Even if you have a child that’s healthy happy and you just feel alone or not enough for your child. For yourself. DO NOT BELIEVE IT. You’re doing amazing.

Sometimes we just need to rant vent or do something to feel better. I am that someone. Message me. Ring me. Especially with lockdown happening I do not want you feeling alone in this awful time. Please remember you’re an amazing parent. Mum. Dad. Step dad. Step mum. Carer. No matter what you are. You are enough. I just wanted to hop on and really open my arms to anyone suffering. I dealt with my demons by reaching out please try do the same. Write it down. Record yourself. But PLEASE don’t hold it in.

I love you all x